Wednesday, April 26, 2006

Responsibility and Sacrifice

Ponna monday, naan enga university-la irukira oru lecturer-oda pesitu irunthen..His name is Nakeeran..Anna Uni la thaan PhD mudichitu, then he was working as a postdoctoral researcher in many universities throughout the world for 10 years..ippo thaan univ of Aberdeen-la lecturer velai kidaichu vanthu irukirar..I was asking how is the standard here compared to the Indian system of education? Avar sonnar, that the education system is useless compared to the Indian counterparts..I didnt agree with him completely..Naan sonnen, naama thevai illama oorla - irukira ellatheyum thandama padichitu irukom..naan BE - la 64 subjects padichen in 8 semesters..first yr la maths,physics, eng drawing-nu neraya thevai illama padichen..ippadi ovaru semesters-layum we ended up studying loads..and at the end of day - I dont know what I no use-nu sollitu irunthen..but he didnt agree with it..So I asked him - then how come all the greatest inventions in this world were by whites? y by not our ppl?Athuku avar sonna pathil thaan intha blog-oda topic..

"Responsibility" was the main obstacle in achieving recognition and success-nu sonnar..He said "the main reason y our ppl dont achieve the kind of success like what the whites have is that because we dont do a job that satisfies ourselves - we r working for the sake of working"..avar sonnathu romba correct-ana vishayam..If we dont like what we are doing, and if we force ourselves to do things - then we are not going to achieve great heights in our profession..He further added "the main reason y we are not able to choose the profession we like is that because of the term responsibility. We cannot risk doing what we like, due to several reasons..But see the whites, they dont have anything to worry about..daily ovaru ponnoda suthuran..he need not worry abt marriage..he need not worry abt his parents..he need not worry abt his children..he does whatever he wants to..and he does that with 100% conviction and satisfaction..that is y they are successful in life...moreover even in research - u c the white ppl working mon-fri for several hrs..they think only abt research..saturday - sunday they dont think abt it..but naama appadiya..velai seyum pothu - namma pondati pathi nenaipom..kulanthaiyai patti nenaipom..we have to go early since our family will be waiting for us.." So we r sacrificing ourselves for the sake of responsibility...

Intha sacrifice enbathu romba mukiyamana vishayam..Intha ulagame sacrifice ennum varthaiyil thaan iyangirathu..Ennaku sacrifice-nu sollum pothu - pengal thaan nyabagam varuvarkal..reason - my mother..When my mother lost her mother when she was 10, she took the responsibility of bringing up her sister (chitthi)..My mother took the responsibility of bringing us up..Intha valkai en amma pota pitchai!..Ippadi thaan ovaru thaaiyum than pilaikalai irathathai sinthi kaapathuranga..Ennoda chitthi engaluku-kaga seykira thyagam cannot be said in words...When a gal is about to give a child, the sacrifice she undertakes is tremendous..Ippadi neraya thyagangal-ai sollitu pogalam..Shanmugapriya sonnathu pola, ennoda pulambalkalai daily ketkiranthum - ennaku advice panurathum en anbana friends Parvati, Viji and Shubavum thaan :)..So avanga seyrathum oru vithathula periya sacrifice thaan :)..Ippo neenga intha blog-a time waste panni padichathum oru sacrifice thaan :)..


Parvati, I have sacrificed my sleep and have updated my Crimson-sky blog for you :))


Blogger Shuba said... happy to see my name in your blog....But i don accept family has anything to do with success...A good girl in life will definitely bring more success in a man's life..She can take all problems out of his brain and make him conc on his work...Thandathukku kanda kanda subj Be padichom I accept...We don do great inventions cos...the funding is not enuf...but researchers throughout the world majority of them are indians,,,,,Family kolanthai ..nalla pondatti..will definitely make a man more successful....Amma kolanthaikku panrathu per thyagam illai...thats pleasure...puritha?

9:49 PM, April 26, 2006  
Blogger Arjuna_Speaks said...

Shuba - Yeah I agree with that..But we dont have to marry to be successful right..Appadi paartha Vajpayee,Abdul Kalam, en friend Sriram ellam kalyanam panama successful-a friend Sriram has so much responsibilities in life - that he is not able to do what he wants to do..that is what I am trying to say..

"Amma kolanthaikku panrathu per thyagam illai...thats pleasure...puritha?"

I agree - but I am saying its sacrifice from the child's point of view..puriyutha? :)

9:57 PM, April 26, 2006  
Blogger Shuba said...

guruji enna sonnalum accepted so u have decided not to marry?

10:26 PM, April 26, 2006  
Blogger Sattvic said...


Nice blog. Unaga tamil kadhai padichen....romba sad ending...Eppo enaku finals week. So konjam busy...Will catch up with all your posts later.

Have fun bloggin!

3:17 AM, April 27, 2006  
Anonymous vidhyalakshmi said...

naan kandupidichutein......... yaarunu..? ore confusion nu soneengale...i got t.
m....m.... nadakatum nadakatum.... :-)

neenga sonnadhu correct thaan -- naan konjam adamant type thaan. idhu mattum illa... enga rendu perukkum ( thaarani&me ) ore birthdate kooda. rendu perume 7 aam number.

4:09 AM, April 27, 2006  
Anonymous vidhyalakshmi said...

a very good topic --- ippo neenga eduthurukarathu.
"A good girl in life will definitely bring more success in a man's life"
as shuba said - ths s true...but at the same time, adha gents ellorum purinjukarathu illa. too good - neenga adha unardhirukireenga. aanna life la most a yaarume andha veetula irukkara ladies oda sacrifice a purinjukarathu illa. eppo adha unarvaanga theriyuma.... avangala oru kattathula ezhakum bothu...!
adha naan oru vidhathula selfish nu kooda solluvein. yeinna... girls a porutha varai - edho sacrifice nu ninaichu edhuvume pannrathu illa. adhukku peru sacrifice um kidayathu. they live 4 their family not 4 thm, but boys... appadi kidayathu. adhukaaga ella pasangalayum sollrein nu ninaikaadheenga... 99% ippadi thaan. edho 1% ( ungala maadhiri... ) thaan adha realize pannraanga.

4:28 AM, April 27, 2006  
Blogger ambi said...

Arjun, nice thought provoking post. but i can't accept ur/profess views on family sys vellaikaran and namma allungka.
They live a freeky life. Do You know one thing? after sep 11th 2001 incident, many vellaikara pasanga started trusting on family sys. and rate of divorce had decreased.
Monogamy is the symbol of india. (he hee,site adikkalam, thapillai)
They pretend to be happy. but not exp the true happinees.

Hope U r not offended by my comments.

4:42 AM, April 27, 2006  
Blogger Arjuna_Speaks said...

Shuba - Kaalam thaan atharku pathil sollavendum :))

6:58 AM, April 27, 2006  
Blogger Arjuna_Speaks said...

Priya - thanks for dropping in here even though u have ur exams :)..good luck with it :)

7:00 AM, April 27, 2006  
Blogger Arjuna_Speaks said...

Vidhya - ithu enna sandana kadathal veerapanna? kanudupidikirathu?he he naan unga ellar kudayum in no confusion..ungal paasathey sothikave intha siru thiruvilayadalai naam purinthom..ungal pasaathai kandu mahilnthom :))..

Vidhya - neenga solrathu ennaku puriyuthu :)..enga family-lai ippadi "sila" aan margal irukirarkal!! They will realize soon :)

7:03 AM, April 27, 2006  
Blogger Arjuna_Speaks said...

No no ambi - i am not offended :)..y shuld I be? :)..Ambi athey thaan naan solla vanthen..only by sacrifice we can realize true happiness..

7:05 AM, April 27, 2006  
Anonymous vidhyalakshmi said...

" ungal paasathey sothikave intha siru thiruvilayadalai naam purinthom..ungal pasaathai kandu mahilnthom :)).. "
- nambittein ( sathyamaa...)

7:36 AM, April 27, 2006  
Blogger Arjuna_Speaks said...

ennai nambinor kai vida paduvathilai Vidhya :))

7:44 AM, April 27, 2006  
Blogger வேதா said...

//..he need not worry abt his parents..he need not worry abt his children..he does whatever he wants to..and he does that with 100% conviction and satisfaction..that is y they are successful in life//
well thats true. but we dont measure sucess as merely sucess in career. we need a family to support us and celebrate with us. so we sacrifice something for the other. but when the family sacrifices more we get more success. vellakaranuku family thevai illa, marriage theva illa. avanuku appapa enna thevaiyo atha appapa fulfil panipaan. he is not ready for fulltime commitments. so vetri mukiyam thaan, aana athuku enna vilai kodukarom enbathu thaan mukiyam.

5:04 AM, April 28, 2006  
Blogger Arjuna_Speaks said...

Nalla Karuthukal Veda :)..Even I was thinking of writing it and forgot it :)..Naam valkaiyil jeykirom - velaikaaran athil thotru vidukiran :)

1:04 PM, April 28, 2006  
Blogger Parvati said...

Thank you, Arjuna, for updating the Crimson Sky blog with the sweetest photo of Pillaiyaar. It is so beautiful, that I am itching to make it my profile image. I havent decided yet...Sleep well and in your waking hours update that blog once a week. Shouldnt be too difficult? One paragraph per day over the week and you will have a long nice post?

# Hmmm. A balanced personal life and career is the ideal. For excellence at work, the person should be dedicated, intelligent and talented. Family can be a support or not - his work shouldnt suffer. If he does better and is more successful in his career, his responsibility towards his family can also be better executed, surely? Karumbu thinna coolie venumaa - family will never say to a successful, richer father or a brother. They will enjoy the fruits of his success.

1:37 PM, April 28, 2006  
Anonymous Kaartika said...

"Intha valkai en amma pota pitchai!.."
Tcha! Engayo poyitenga! Pasa malar kothudhu!
'Arjuna – Synonym of devotion' Devoted to any form of pure love...

6:48 PM, April 28, 2006  
Anonymous Anonymous said...


very nice topic.

White peoplesayum engalayum compare panna thevay illainu ninaykurean.
avvangala porutha varaykum

"inayku sertha naalayku paal."

Like Veda said avangaluku appapa enna thevaiyo atha appapa fulfil panipaanga.

Naanga tamils appadi ellam illai, paasam "pongy ellam valliyum"...

Antha anbhu, paasam, alavodhu irukum pothu OK u got ur family support so life successful ahidum.
but athu valkayla overa irunthichuna than thappu -
i mean possessiveness.

ennoda namemum unga blogla ulaavuthu !
nalla mathiry podadiyum kudama podala !

thanks !


9:42 PM, April 28, 2006  
Blogger Arjuna_Speaks said...

Parvati - ur welcome :)..Yeah I shall try to update it as much as I can :)..Good views there :)..I agree with it :)

12:58 PM, April 30, 2006  
Blogger Arjuna_Speaks said...

Vaanga ma Kaarthika :)) - I was waiting for u to put some comments - and finally u did - Grrrrrr! Ok start the work of praising me - lol

12:59 PM, April 30, 2006  
Blogger Arjuna_Speaks said...

Shanmugapriya - Thank u :)..neengal en blog-il podum comments-il oru fire irukirathu..Ungal comments-um ennaku pidithu irukirathu :)..

Oops - ungal-ai patri thaapa kuravillai..appadi eluthi irunthal ennai manikavum :(

1:02 PM, April 30, 2006  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

mm sari sari...

intha muray mannichu vidurean !

pilaychu pohungal ! LOL.


10:03 AM, May 01, 2006  
Blogger Arjuna_Speaks said...

Shanmugapriya - "indru poi naalai vaa" endru kuruvathu pol ullathu :P lol

2:56 PM, May 01, 2006  

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