Marriage and costs...
Yesterday I went to my cousin sister's registration..registration means something that is between nichayathatham and marriage where they officially become husband and wife..The function happened in a beautiful serene place in Surrey..Very far from my house..The place was like a castle and only selected guests were invited..It was a pompous function..All guests were assigned tables!! U cant go and sit on some other table! Ok the point of the post is - I wanted to point out some issues in Srilankan marriages..It may be true to Indian marriages as well..Namma oorla - the marriage costs including registeration is always by the bride's family!! And only the reception is done by the bridegroom! And he wuld invite only some families whereas for marriage his entire battalion wuld be coming! Enna porutha varai - I feel this is not right and moreover having ceremonies for registration , marriage and reception is totally useless! Enna porutha varai its imperative for the bride and bridegroom to understand each other - rather than having people looking at u in awe! That too our SL Tamil ppl just come to these functions to gossip around! Ponnuko or payanuko ethavuthu kurai iruntha they start talking abt it..They talk abt the bride's saree! They dont do anything useful! Haa - and another thing they do - is look out for mappilais and ponnus for their children! There were 2 women questioning me yesterday as if they were interviewing me and it seems they have daughters!! In SL - even if u go to a death ceremony there are ppl who do this!!!!!
I have always been arguing with my family that if I get married - I will invite not more than 20 ppl from my family and friends :) - and probably hope the girl does the same thing - and have the cheapest low key wedding ever (not more than 1000 pounds probably ;) )! No registration or reception functions! My sister tells me what if the girl doesnt agree to this! :)..Hmm, interesting question - no answer!Anyway, I have told my mother and family this! No pompous celebrations, no wasting money, no people looking at u in awe - nothing! Simple is the key!
My sister asked me where wuld u take my wife after marriage - and I replied "Tiruvanamalai for girivalam"!!! En thangachi thalaila kaiya vachutu odi poiduchu!
I have always been arguing with my family that if I get married - I will invite not more than 20 ppl from my family and friends :) - and probably hope the girl does the same thing - and have the cheapest low key wedding ever (not more than 1000 pounds probably ;) )! No registration or reception functions! My sister tells me what if the girl doesnt agree to this! :)..Hmm, interesting question - no answer!Anyway, I have told my mother and family this! No pompous celebrations, no wasting money, no people looking at u in awe - nothing! Simple is the key!
My sister asked me where wuld u take my wife after marriage - and I replied "Tiruvanamalai for girivalam"!!! En thangachi thalaila kaiya vachutu odi poiduchu!
posted by Gnana Kirukan at 5/30/2006 06:58:00 AM
20 Comments:
Tmalai girivalama...???
rhombha thaan... paapom paapom, enna pannreenga nu?
but anna, neenga SL nu particulara mention panni irukeenga, not like that, ellorume appadi thaan. so adha thaniya mention pannaadheenga.
simple wedding...--- i agree with u, but ponnu accept pannikanum.
You want a simple and low profile wedding..Good..But It's easier said that done. Believe me. I too had similar thoughts but all I could manage to do was to cancel the Jaanavasaam, where they take the groom around the streets in a stupid car..
You will have to compromise on certain things if you want to keep both the families happy...
pesama how bout odi poi kalyanam? appo samae low key, or like in damil movies gabtun padam style in police station? then cops will bear all selavu, idu eppidi irukku?
ok, ok.
Invitation laye, 'This is just FYI. You need not strain yourself to attend the wedding' nu print pannidu. :P
Low budget kalyanama? Nalla idea, but 20 people are too less. Neenga yaare invite panrengalo, enna mattum invite panannum! Kalyanathuku late a vandalum, latest a vandiduven, correcta sapudre nerathuku vandiduven... ;-)
parkalam...invite us to your marriage ;)
enna arjunaa...veetla ponnu paathuttangala poruppa yosikkringa....neenga selavu pannalana yaarala selavu panna mudiyum?????????????haaahahahaa
U are perfectly right abt the ppl attend marriages mainly for gossiping or finding a proper match for son/daughter. Enga veetu kalyaanathula laam neriyaa vaati relatives and so called family friends naala neriyaa prachanai vandhuruku. But kandipa most parents would like to conduct their son/daughter's wedding in a pompous manner, idhula society pathi laam vera yosika vendi iruke
Vidhya - :))..yow tiruvanamalai pora mathri vera santhosham engayavuthu varuma? :)
Parvati - LOL :))..intha kalathula even many marriages r celebrate in a pompous way :))..
Karthik - u married????
ada-paavi - super idea boss :P lol - wow man just imagine marrying in front of captain ;)
TJ - experience pesuthu ::))
Kaarthika - u know that ur in the defacto list :P lol
Usha - wuld do :)
Veda - very true pa :)..i think its high time - the boy's family also shares the costs :)..very true :)
Shuba - nakkalu?? :))
Ms Cong - Amen - yes enga family-layum neraya pirachinai vanthu iruku..I think the rule of the thumb here is never allow any of ur relatives to interfere..Keep them in a distance when it comes to marriage and family life! Else there r ppl who r ready to spoil things!
"Simple is the key" correct dhan... to a certain extent. adhuku nu 20 per mattum invite panradhellam over. panam edhuku... pooti vechukkava? selavazhikka dhana? :P This is a way of getting your relatives and friends together, who don't get a chance to do so, otherwise...
LOL @ Tiruvannamalai giri valam...
yow viji - intha relatives vanthu sumava irupanga - ethavuthu nottai solluvanga - so its better not to invite them :)
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