Yesterday I went to my cousin sister's registration..registration means something that is between nichayathatham and marriage where they officially become husband and wife..The function happened in a beautiful serene place in Surrey..Very far from my house..The place was like a castle and only selected guests were invited..It was a pompous function..All guests were assigned tables!! U cant go and sit on some other table! Ok the point of the post is - I wanted to point out some issues in Srilankan marriages..It may be true to Indian marriages as well..Namma oorla - the marriage costs including registeration is always by the bride's family!! And only the reception is done by the bridegroom! And he wuld invite only some families whereas for marriage his entire battalion wuld be coming! Enna porutha varai - I feel this is not right and moreover having ceremonies for registration , marriage and reception is totally useless! Enna porutha varai its imperative for the bride and bridegroom to understand each other - rather than having people looking at u in awe! That too our SL Tamil ppl just come to these functions to gossip around! Ponnuko or payanuko ethavuthu kurai iruntha they start talking abt it..They talk abt the bride's saree! They dont do anything useful! Haa - and another thing they do - is look out for mappilais and ponnus for their children! There were 2 women questioning me yesterday as if they were interviewing me and it seems they have daughters!! In SL - even if u go to a death ceremony there are ppl who do this!!!!!
I have always been arguing with my family that if I get married - I will invite not more than 20 ppl from my family and friends :) - and probably hope the girl does the same thing - and have the cheapest low key wedding ever (not more than 1000 pounds probably ;) )! No registration or reception functions! My sister tells me what if the girl doesnt agree to this! :)..Hmm, interesting question - no answer!Anyway, I have told my mother and family this! No pompous celebrations, no wasting money, no people looking at u in awe - nothing! Simple is the key!
My sister asked me where wuld u take my wife after marriage - and I replied "
Tiruvanamalai for girivalam"!!! En thangachi thalaila kaiya vachutu odi poiduchu!
Recently I met some of my old school friends after 14 yrs and I started an egroup for our our classmates..One of my long lost friend sent this picture to us! Wow! I am so happy - I never maintained any pics in my life - and I was regretting for not doing so :(...I think this pic was taken during our 5th std..Awesome :)..
